My children are not morning people. In fact, my hubby isn’t either. Mornings are like that dreaded two hour window of misery where we essentially hate each other. I have tried a lot of different approaches to making mornings less fitnah and more fun (or more bearable for that matter). I try tickling them awake, dancing around, playing nasheeds. I’ve tried cooking surprise breakfasts, having hot chocolate after fajr, and snuggling to their hearts content. I’ve also tried jarring them awake, snatching blankets offs, spritzing them with water and banging a duff drum while shouting at the top of my lungs, “Riiiise and Shiiiine and give Allah His Glory, Glory, Riiiiise and Shiiiiine and give Allah His Glory, Glory. RISE! AND! SHINE! AND! Give Allah His Glory, Glory, servants of the Loooooord. (my rendition of the song Catholic nuns sang to my mother as a child, while banging cymbals to wake them, yipes!). It doesn’t matter what approach I use… a well-meaning tickle session can send them into a rage for the rest of the morning, a loud, duff-banging racket may bring me giggles and hugs. It’s a total crap shoot.
But one thing I’ve recently discovered has made all the difference. When I came across this hadith, I was a little skeptical. I mean, we’re talking seven grumpy kids, a tired hubby, and a mom who usually doesn’t get but 3-4 hours of sleep a night. Could a few words and wudu make that big of a difference? Let me tell you: It does. It absolutely does. So let’s start with the evidence:
The Prophet (saw) said: When any one of you goes to sleep, the devil ties three knots at the back of his neck, sealing every knot with,” You have a long night, so sleep.” So if one awakes and mentions Allah, a knot will be loosened; if he performs wudu two knots are loosened; and if he prays the salaat (all) knots will be loosened, and in the morning he will be active and in good spirits; otherwise we will be in bad spirits and sluggish in the morning. (Sahih Muslim Book #004, Hadith #1702)
We began incorporating this a month or two ago, and when we remember, it does have a very positive effect, masha’Allah. After the duaa is said, they are still unpleasant, but it’s a small improvement, then after wudu, they soften up considerably, and finally after the salaat, everyone is pretty much as right as rain, al hamdulillah! For us, consistency is the key! So, as always, seeking to creatively (and consistently) motivate them, I created this fun poster as a reminder of the three steps to a wonderful wake up routine. Since I imagine I’m not the only one with a house full of morning monsters, I thought I’d share this beneficial reminder wall print with you all, as well. It is available for FREE as a printable chart or you can support our shop and purchase a laminated version for just $4.99, insha’Allah.
So, what about you? Are you suffering through a house full of morning monsters? How do you get your family up and at’em with ease? Do you think this poster would help your family? Share your story!